Archive | August, 2010

Pregnancy is killing my sex life!

Posted on 23. Aug, 2010 by pinky in Pinky

I am so over being tired! At 10 weeks and some days, (Geek will be able to tell you the exact number of days as he is keeping track) the second trimester is nearly here upon us and it can’t come fast enough. This magic trimester is supposed to bring energy and yet you are not so big and uncomfortable you can’t enjoy it yet.

One of the reasons that I has not keen on being pregnant yet is that The Geek and I are still in the new exciting stage of a relationship with lots of sex. ( I can guarantee he is blushing enough to light a room at this stage.) But let’s say there is plenty of love and lust to go around. I know what kids does to ones sex life and selfishly I am not ready to give up great sex yet.

Now that the #pinkbun is in the oven it is imperative that we bank as much good sex as possiblee. The only damn problem is that I can’t stay awake past about 8pm! I am so tired all the horny just flies out the window.

So bring on the energy I have sex I need to be having! And next time you see poor Geek spare a thought for him and his plight of the exhausted girlfriend.

Unassisted birth again?

Posted on 21. Aug, 2010 by pinky in Pinky

Not everyone knows but I had an unassisted birth with my 2nd child. Here is the birth story and an article I wrote for parent24.

So I have naturally been asked if I am going to do it again. The answer is no. I do not think that South Africa has an adequate backup system for me to consider this option. In the UK you phone 999 an ambulance arrives minutes later ( I lived in a well staffed area) the NHS hospitals have to admit you, you do not need a specific Dr at the hospital before they will see you. I was known to the system and had a file with the midwives so it would be an easy transfer if I was worried. Here it is not the same. State hospitals are understaffed and private work only with patients known to the Drs that work there, which I can understand.

So this left me to find a midwife that was willing to be really hands off. I found the perfect midwife that believes in undisturbed birth but sods law she is leaving CT for Durban at the end of February and I am due in mid March. Although Caleb was 2 weeks before due date, it can’t be guaranteed

So the hunt was on again. I found a lady in Muizenberg who worked at Mowbray Active birth unit and backed up at hospital in Pinelands and she was willing to do home births in Northern Suburbs but I was not totally thrilled with the long distance to the backup hospitals.

When we made the offer on the house in Dynefontein/Melkbosstrand I looked to see if there were midwives in the area and there is one. She also covers Northern Subs and has backup Drs in both areas for close transfer if needed. I am going to meet her in Monday and really hope she is open to being very hands off. Slowly but surely everything is falling into place for home birth 3. Now I need to do is: make sure that pinkbun is only one or convince them I can home birth twins, find a birth pool hire in CT, move too our bigger house and twists The Geeks skeptical mind to come with me to Hypnobirthing classes.

9w5d bump

Posted on 18. Aug, 2010 by pinky in Pinky


Yes yes I am well aware that at 9 weeks there should not be a bump but there is so I might as well show you.

Fits in with The Geek posting how big #pinkbun is, so if it is only an inch one has to wonder what all the rest of that is, too many melted cheese sandwiches? They are one of the few things I like eating.

Continuous education

Posted on 17. Aug, 2010 by geek in The Geek

Pinky did something for me this week, which I’ve been meaning to do, but as always suffered under more urgent demands: she signed me up for the weekly newsletter.

This very informative newsletter (and in fact the entire site) satisfies my curiosity about what exactly is happening to Pinky. Each email starts of with a current state of affairs summary detailing the latest developments about our #pinkbun. This week our little parasite, as we¬†affectionately¬†dub it, is 2.5 cm tall and weighs roughly 7 grams. Here’s a picture of it in week 10:

#pinkbun at ten weeks, as taken from

At a time when my experience of the pregnancy is an increased workload, including cooking some atrocious simple meals, and a regularly tired and nauseous partner, things like this help make it real. I sincerely recommended subscribing for any prospective parent.

Pooh seeds

Posted on 07. Aug, 2010 by pinky in Pinky

I am sure there is a limited number of times that one should be allowed to blog about this topic. As someone who hates even the vague possibility of someone knowing that I am doing the aforementioned activity it is hard to fathom why this would be my third time blogging about it. If you have read my Pink Hair Girl blog and have read this and this post on the subject I do apologies that you are subjected to the topic again, Continue Reading →